Monday 21 November 2016

To moms of little boys

You are not only raising your son. You are raising someone else's husband and someone else's dad.
These words caught my attention while I was flipping through some posters.
These are one of the moments where we might have overlooked a glaring fact and realise it suddenly at some other time.
While raising gender neutral kids at home may not be easy especially if you are from a male dominated or conservative society, it's still possible to instill some basic values of gender equality in your son.
It's very true that the little efforts that you put in your son's habit and character is going to make him happy and someone is going to be really thankful for raising your son that way!

Here are few of my suggestions.

Teach your son to fold his sheets on waking up
Making bed before and after sleep is one of those annoying yet can't go without it job.
A clean bedroom posses great powers to alter you mood.
Teach your little son to fold his sheets and keep pillows in order once he wakes up.

Teach your son to sweep and mop the floor
Gone are the days where men find it a threat to their dignity if they hold a broom in hand.
This generation has progressed to an extent where cleaning your own home has nothing to do with gender.
Keep a separate broom and a mop that's convenient for your kid to use.He will be happy and excited to help around.

Teach your son to cook his own food.
Wheather cooking food is a passion or not, cooking skills are a necessity to every human being.
Encourage your son to do little chores like peeling carrots ,kneading dough.
You might come up with age appropriate jobs in kitchen for your son.You can teach your teenage son to cook a staple meal.

Teach your son to carry the baggages in travel.
A true gentleman cares for the women in his family.You can even encourage your toddle to help you with luggages.Older kids can be asked to move baggages to and from the car or in transit.
This gives them a sense of responsibility and they will be proud to do it for you.

Teach you son to hold the door for you and other people in the family
Ever time you go to a supermarket or even at home, let your son hold the door for you and even for strangers when necessary.

Teach your son to keep his wardrobe organised.
Women complain in most households that it's just impossible for men to keep their wardrobe organised.
Teach your son to pick his clothes patiently and keep his wardrobe intact.

These are a few examples.
You can teach your son all the household chores that you do.
Expect Initial reluctance. But by not nagging them all the time and by using an affirming tone, it's best to make your kids do chores at home.In due course, these chores which where initially done with contempt, will become a part of their lifestyle.

Most importantly, teach your sons to respect women , to honour their dignity and to protect them whenever necessary.





1 comment:

  1. Good points on how to raise a son Pavithra !! These points when followed not only makes a mom feel proud once their son has grown up but makes his wife and daughter happy..its true that every woman expects this kind of Husband and father in their life..

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